The Balancing Act: Navigating Family and Career Life
Many learned during the pandemic the importance of creating space and time for the things and people we love. Now more than ever, people are in search of better family and career balance through acquiring flexible work schedules, entrepreneurship, passive streams of income and investing. Even with all of these amazing ideas it still requires a lot of time and effort. So how exactly does one achieve balance? I’ve had other moms ask me, “Girl how do you balance it all?” and I’ve asked other moms myself that very same question. My answer is always the same, “I honestly don't know, I am just doing the best that I can.” I think this is most people. Sure, there are things that can help the process of creating this “balance” but is there ever true balance or harmony like some like to say? In my opinion, most people are doing the best they can with what they know and have. Just like any other human, some days I am on the top of my game and there are other times that I can’t get out of my own way. However, there are some proven tips that have helped me along the way and I’m hoping that it can help you too.
Prioritize your time: Make a list of the things that are most important to you and that absolutely have to get done. Now I’ve realized that the older I get, my mind is not as sharp. I absolutely have to write things down or log them into my calendar or I will forget. In addition, I create time blocks. I have to do this because I have four beautiful humans who require their mom and wife to spend time with them too. Yes, my career is important to me but they are my first priority.
Get use to the word NO: I know sometimes we think we can do and be everywhere but it’s impossible. My most important priorities come first and then I add additional things from there. Sometimes, I have to make the tough decision to say no because let’s be real, either I just don’t want to or I don’t have the capacity for it. I really struggled with this in my younger years because I wanted to please people. Now that I’m older, I realize that people pleasing is not it and, the people that know me, know if I can support or be of assistance I will. Most importantly, my children are watching me and the decisions I’m making. I want to be a good example for them. Overextending myself is not the example or generational habits I want them to inherit.
Look for better work schedules: You’d be surprised what employers will do for good employees. If your career is flexible enough for you to alter your schedule go for it. If you need to speak with your supervisor, ASK. Remember the old saying, “Closed mouths don't get fed?” It’s the truth, if you don’t ask you’ll never know. The worst thing they can say is No and guess what you’ll survive. If this is just impossible where you currently work and you are looking for new opportunities make sure the opportunities you are looking for have the balance you are seeking. Oh, and If you need support with your resume and interview process, connect with me, I got your back.
Plan Ahead: Some of us are natural-born planners and some are not. I must admit I am a planner by nature, however, my partner is not. I’ve learned to love the idea of both for different reasons. Let’s face it, no matter how much I plan, I realize those plans can change instantly for any given reason. However, the benefit of planning gives me a roadmap to the things I’d like to accomplish with family, friends, and my career. Plans help me stay focused on all of my goals.
I hope this was helpful. Please remember in your quest for “balance” to give yourself grace. You deserve that much. It will all come together in time.
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Your Career Friend,
Shatoya
